For the past month, I have been hiding behind okay.
What turned out to be a rare and serious case of strep throat the first week of April pushed me into a manic, panic attack ridden state with memory problems where I was messing up at work, forgetting basic details, and also my throat felt like knives and I had a raging fever but was too stubborn to heed my body – so I worked four full 9-5 days until the clinic finally called me, told me they got back the lab results, and that no it wasn’t allergies, yes you are seriously ill.
Then I went on antibiotics. And I didn’t know it at the time, as the research just came out in 2015, but antibiotics can push bipolar patients into manic states. So, already delirious off fevers and infections, I swallowed two pills daily that led to me becoming suicidal, violently unstable, a crying wreck with no self-esteem that thought she was a horrible person, and multiple panic attacks where I was inches away from walking into traffic or jumping in front of the Metro.
If you had asked me how I was doing, I would have said?
I still went out with friends. I went on dates with the guy I like. Sometimes I had to cancel, and sometimes I went home in a crying wreck, curling up in my bed for a ball for hours.
But I didn’t miss a day of work.
I didn’t miss friend’s parties.
I didn’t miss my kindred dinners or blots.
I went to classes from 7:20-11:00 on Mondays without complaint.
I push, and I push, and I push, and I never admit that I’m not okay.
My best friend told me that apparently all my friends think I’m a badass, which never really dawned on me, but they’ve seen me wrestle with this monster that is bipolar type 1 with psychosis, paranoia, anxiety, panic disorder, and OCD. One alone could put someone on disability. I’m such a special snowflake I have six diagnoses. And I work a my dream job doing hard work on Capitol Hill for forty hours each week and still have time to be a cornerstone for friends.
When I was at my sickest, and I couldn’t take care of myself, I still was taking care of other people. Two Sundays ago, six of my friends opened up to me with their worst fears and problems all in the span of 5 hours. It was therapeutic for me to help them, because I was so mentally weak and unstable, I thought maybe if I could stretch to listen to and nurture them, I could fix myself.
I still haven’t fixed myself.
After an entire month, I’m finally stable again, and my mania and panic attacks have worn off. As in I-can’t-breathe-I’m-going-to-violently-kill-myself-and-blame-my-parents-for-not-aborting-the-worthless-cunt-I-am panic attacks.
I like to fantasize about my death a lot.
Oven head like Sylvia Plath.
Self mutilation like Van Gogh.
Pills, poison, jumping from a building.
It’s nice to know that at any moment, you can end your hell of a life.
And trust me, my life was absolute shit.
Sometimes I think suicide is stupid. Sometimes I think it’s worth it.
Samael calls it selfish and shameful.
Michael just holds me and sings lullabies and runs his fingers through my hair.
Freyr became a tree with me, and I felt so at peace as a tree, feeding off starlight and rain.
Sometimes I wish I was normal, just for one, a single, glorious day, not a slave to my emotions or the turmoil and intrusive thoughts and delusions.
These gods and angels and demons, they could all just be in my head.
This universe could just be some sick trick a comatose brain is playing.
When you’re one of the crazies, you realize reality is fickle, and that you are never in control, not really.
So yes, I am okay.
But then again –
I am never okay.
When I was crying to my mom on the phone about to jump in front of the six o ‘clock train, she said I was too high-functioning to ever go on disability. And it’s so fucking true. I’m too talented. Insanely smart. Too strong. Not that being on disability means you’re weak, but honestly, with my diagnosis, most people are flat out homeless and very few have high profile jobs saving the world.
Most are probably just dead.
So I guess I’ll keep living, keep being useful, and try to take care of myself.
Because if I don’t, I’ll break again.
I’ll want to die again, return to the void.
Samael turned into the Void in one of my dreams, and he wrapped himself around me and I just dissolved. Into nothingness. That’s how I hope Death is. Just erasing. Nonexistence.
Because hell no am I doing this again.
I quit life next go around.
I will be nirvana.